In his memoir, “Not Everything Counts but Everything Matters,” released on October 16, 2024, Penrith Panthers coach Ivan Cleary offers a candid look into his personal and professional life, including his battle with mental health and the dynamics of coaching his son, Nathan Cleary. A significant highlight is the revelation of a speech delivered by Nathan that profoundly impacted the team.
In 2019, upon Ivan’s return to coach the Panthers, the team faced challenges both on and off the field. It was during this period that Nathan, recognizing the need for a shift in the team’s mindset, delivered a heartfelt speech to his teammates. He emphasized the importance of unity, accountability, and the collective pursuit of excellence. Nathan urged his fellow players to embrace vulnerability, communicate openly, and support one another beyond the confines of the game.
This speech resonated deeply, serving as a catalyst for change within the team. Players began to foster a culture of trust and openness, leading to improved on-field performance and stronger interpersonal relationships. Ivan Cleary reflects on this moment as a turning point, not only for the team’s dynamics but also in his approach to coaching. He acknowledges that Nathan’s words highlighted the significance of mental well-being and the power of authentic connection in achieving sustained success.
Ivan’s memoir delves deeper into the challenges he faced, including his personal struggles with mental health. He admits to periods of emotional difficulty, particularly in 2019, where he found it hard to get out of bed and became emotional without clear reasons. Like many men, he held these feelings in, not discussing them, which he now recognizes as detrimental. His journey underscores the importance of open conversations about mental health, especially among men who might feel pressured to “man up” and suppress their emotions.
The memoir also touches upon the complexities of the father-son relationship within a professional setting. Coaching Nathan presented unique challenges and rewards, requiring a balance between familial bonds and professional responsibilities. Ivan discusses how they navigated this dynamic, ensuring that their personal relationship remained strong while striving for excellence on the field.
“Not Everything Counts but Everything Matters” offers readers an intimate look into the experiences that have shaped Ivan Cleary’s coaching philosophy and personal life. It serves as a testament to the power of vulnerability, open communication, and the relentless pursuit of growth, both personally and professionally.
